How does the idea of separation shapes our identity?

Separation does conclude to be a really significant part of a human life. We part ways with variety of people, things, services and etcetera. Even though we feel our mind reacting to the separation we rule it out, we ignore the symptoms in the hindsight of emotions and store them locked in some far away compartment of our mind we'd never open.

So, why is it that human find separation so impactful? What is it about separating from something/someone that we can't let go, if we think about it so we train our brain not to think about it?

Can it be said that separation makes us do things we might consider morally wrong. is that it. That we are afraid of what our mind might think if we let the idea of separation sit in it for too long. because if it is just another emotion it should be dealt with just like any other emotion.

No. Because human can't accept the fact that their mind has the capability to think the worst of the possibilities, maybe not at the same pace as a serial killer or a murderer, nonetheless we can get the exact same thoughts we shudder when we read about in the news. and the idea of relating ourselves to something as horrible as that makes us question ourselves.

What we need to understand is human mind is capable of every thought as much as it craves affirmation is the same as it craves destruction. We can't stop it. We shouldn't suppress. Suppression just leads to more want, this want can increase to an unwanted level that you might start acting on these thoughts.

Hence, moving back to separation. Let's do a practice, close your eyes and imagine the person you love is drifting away from you slowly, forcefully. Now, again close your eyes, but this time imagine you are drifting away from that person. I could not have explained the need to stay close better than this. We are human and we love selfishly which is why us drifting away from the person makes us sad makes us think 'this is unfair' confuses us but the idea of that person drifting away from us, that makes us furious, makes us shout for help, makes us see red.

We keep our loved one close due to this very reason, because we are selfish because we don't want to look at separation as just an emotion hell, we don't even want to look at separation or think about it. Because our mind is capable of a lot more than we give it the credit for.

So, the next time you say 'Don't leave me' to your loved one, think about the practice, and think about one more thing, what would happen if they went away willingly, you might be even more furious, but this time you'd have a person to blame unlike the previous time.